I guess now that we have done ‘within’ and ‘without’, it’s as good a time as any to contemplate ‘give’ and ‘forgive’. Again, these are words that we throw about casually in almost daily usage. I had to read this one several times. You’ll see what I mean momentarily. :-)
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Greetings this day, Dear One
You are eager to continue with the entertaining game of words mix-and-match. Splendid! Let us jump right in. We will present viewpoints regarding “give” and “forgive”. It appears that there should be a connection, as both words contain the same root. So let us begin with “Give”.
Give: This one is easy, you say. Everybody knows what “give” means. Okay, then. Let us ‘give’ some examples. According to your book of defining words, “give” can be “applicable to any passing over of anything by any means”. To give can be said to make or present, such as to give a gift. Additionally, to grant or bestow is also considered giving. To yield, to convey to another, to allot, to designate, to attribute, to deliver, to offer, to sacrifice, to devote, to allow one to take, to donate – all of these are very good examples of “give”. You are thinking of “give her a flower”, “they plan to give him the keys to the city”, “this card will give you the right to vote”, “give him the message”, etc. etc. It appears that you believe that “passing over anything by any means” implies that this will be done from one being to another, from you to her, or from me to you. If this is then the case, we “give” you this pearl to consider as we move on with our discussion: Does one ever “give” to oneself?
We will now take a look at the word “forgive”.
We see that as you are thinking of this word, the examples differ from what we discussed with “give”. Again, you have different thoughts, feelings, emotions come up when we say the word “forgive”. Sometimes thinking of forgiving brings a thought of love and acceptance, as in excusing or indulging an offense, rudeness, discourtesy acted out by another. This is especially easier to accomplish if the offending party has apologized or requested forgiveness, perhaps having behaved irresponsibly or hurtfully as a result of innocent thoughtlessness or ignorance. However, sometimes you feel as though it is more difficult, even impossible to forgive someone’s transgression because it has caused the pain to cut too deeply, leaving a wound which you are certain will never heal, and most certainly never be forgotten. “I will forgive you, but I will never forget”. Can you really accomplish one without the other?
Let us take a more microscopic view of “forgive”. If you are contemplating forgiving someone for something that you perceive they have done to you, could this still be an act of giving? Out of the goodness and kindness of your heart, you will forgive or excuse or pardon their acts or words. Could this then not be considered a “passing over of anything by any means”? You are giving to them a pardon. If you are truly up to the forgiving act, you will wish to offer your forgiveness to them with all of the love that you can muster up. You hope that with this act of giving, this act of releasing blame, harboring ill or hurtful thoughts or feelings, or any feelings of mistrust, will then also be released, set free. In this way, the “forgiver” is actually receiving a gift, just as is the “forgivee”. :-) Perhaps then, could we say that when one (for)gives, one receives? In other words, for giving, one also gets. And also then would it not follow that if one could truly forgive deeply and completely, all those concerned would receive even more greatly? Consider this: in order to “give” to the highest degree, one might first want to give this same gift to oneself. In other words, as you say, you are able to give more when you have more to give. So ultimately, if one can forgive oneself first, one would then have a greater capacity of love to work with when forgiving another. So we might then say, before one gives pardons, one pardons oneself. [Be]fore giving, [fore]giving, forgiving. …….. and then also for giving, we get (receive). Forgive, Forget. Before we give, we forgive, and for that we receive. That is what we receive or get. Forgetting, we receive. [For]giving is [for]getting. When we give, we get (receive). So, now if you can do this for another, can you not also do it for yourself? If another is “worthy” or deserving of your for-give-ness, then are you not also worthy of your for-give-ness? Indeed you are. You are (each) Beloved, a child of the Divine, a God-spark. Indeed you are!!
In reading today’s “word game”, the meaning becomes clear to You instantaneously – at the core of your beingness. Within your cellular structure, the toggle switches are tripped. Click, click, bing, bing. You understand. You remember. You know. However, there may be other parts of You who would choose to read this again, perhaps multiple times. If you break down these simple sentences into bite-size morsels, even your mind will at last say “Ahaaa” . We would lovingly ask that you do not worry and fret if you choose to read this only once, and discover that it sounds a bit confusing. If you so choose to read it again, of course you may do so – but we would add that this is not a test. You do not need to study it at length or labor long hours diagramming the sentences and trying to grasp the hidden meanings. Nothing is hidden. It is on display for you to drink in. Having quenched your thirst, do you continue to examine and analyze the bucket or the well? :-)
Now, Dear One, we know that before bringing this to a close, you are still desirous of a more succinct example. You ask us to put it “in a nutshell” for you this day. Very well, then.
Let us imagine two young girls, Mary and Sue, who are in high school. They are the dearest of friends, and spend as much of their waking moments together as possible. They belong to the same clubs, have the same interests and hobbies, and, in fact, live right around the corner from each other. They share everything from items of clothing to their innermost secrets. When they are not “hanging out” together, they are talking on the phone. They do indeed love each other, and they have no thoughts of anything every changing. One day, a misunderstanding arises between them, and there is much hurt and pain. Mary mistakenly believes that Sue has done something unthinkable. She has “gone out” with Mary’s boyfriend. Others contribute pieces of misinformation and lies pile upon deceit. Although there is no truth to the accusation, Sue is unable to convince her friend that it is not so. Mary, feeling hurt and betrayed by the person whom she trusted most, declares an end to the friendship. They are then both very angry, and both feel very much abandoned. It seems they have misplaced their trust. By this we mean that they feel they had not only trusted the wrong person, but also had then consequently “lost” their ability to trust --- or had misplaced it. They cannot forgive OR forget. Much time goes by, and soon the pain has lessened, they have changed their focus and moved on with their lives. However, now with remembering, they find that a deep sadness has replaced the initial anger, and yet it does not feel any better. Still no forgiving, no forgetting. One day, Mary is thinking about how their friendship used to be --- in the “good old days” – and as she reminisces, she begins to smile. She remembers the wonder-full times, the closeness, the caring and sharing, and she thinks to herself, “Sue would never, ever have betrayed my trust. How could I possibly have believed it could be so? Why didn’t I sit and talk to her and work things out? I have forever lost my dearest friend.” Mary is feeling very badly for the way that she handled things, and suddenly a thought enters her mind. It is a kind thought…….”I didn’t know any better. I did the best that I could at the time”. With that thought, Mary starts to “lighten up”. She treats herself lovingly ---- she forgives herself. As she does so, she begins to cry, and then in her mind, she also speaks to Sue. She mentally offers her old friend an apology, and she allows herself to feel forgiven by Sue. She has made peace with the perceived wrongdoing --- both her friend’s and her own. She has let it go. She has set it free. She has “given”, but first she has “fore given”, forgiven. She has also received, because she has given this kindness to herself as well. With the wound in her heart now healed, she has a greater capacity to give and to receive. Do you see that she has both given and forgiven? And now she also receives (gets). She receives the healing that Love always brings. She gets it. And now she can also forget it….because when she remembers, it will no longer bring pain. It has lost its sting. It has been forgiven, and now forgotten. It does not mean it is not remembered --- only that it no longer hurts, because it has been replaced with Love. There is one less “less than” and one more little corridor opened up and filled with Light.
Give-Forgive-Forget brings Re-membering. And so it is.
We hope that you do not consider this “nutshell” too big to crack. :-) Today’s topic is both extremely simple at its base, and yet quite complex. Your mind may try to trick you into believing that you have not grasped it. Know that you will receive exactly what you need, whether you read it once or many times.
With this, we will end for today. This lesson is “for giving”…….please begin with yourself. You are Beloved, or as some might say “You Be Loved”.
I Am JoyUs :-)
Copyright © 2017 Karen Joyce Weaver. All Rights Reserved.
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Greetings this day, Dear One
You are eager to continue with the entertaining game of words mix-and-match. Splendid! Let us jump right in. We will present viewpoints regarding “give” and “forgive”. It appears that there should be a connection, as both words contain the same root. So let us begin with “Give”.
Give: This one is easy, you say. Everybody knows what “give” means. Okay, then. Let us ‘give’ some examples. According to your book of defining words, “give” can be “applicable to any passing over of anything by any means”. To give can be said to make or present, such as to give a gift. Additionally, to grant or bestow is also considered giving. To yield, to convey to another, to allot, to designate, to attribute, to deliver, to offer, to sacrifice, to devote, to allow one to take, to donate – all of these are very good examples of “give”. You are thinking of “give her a flower”, “they plan to give him the keys to the city”, “this card will give you the right to vote”, “give him the message”, etc. etc. It appears that you believe that “passing over anything by any means” implies that this will be done from one being to another, from you to her, or from me to you. If this is then the case, we “give” you this pearl to consider as we move on with our discussion: Does one ever “give” to oneself?
We will now take a look at the word “forgive”.
We see that as you are thinking of this word, the examples differ from what we discussed with “give”. Again, you have different thoughts, feelings, emotions come up when we say the word “forgive”. Sometimes thinking of forgiving brings a thought of love and acceptance, as in excusing or indulging an offense, rudeness, discourtesy acted out by another. This is especially easier to accomplish if the offending party has apologized or requested forgiveness, perhaps having behaved irresponsibly or hurtfully as a result of innocent thoughtlessness or ignorance. However, sometimes you feel as though it is more difficult, even impossible to forgive someone’s transgression because it has caused the pain to cut too deeply, leaving a wound which you are certain will never heal, and most certainly never be forgotten. “I will forgive you, but I will never forget”. Can you really accomplish one without the other?
Let us take a more microscopic view of “forgive”. If you are contemplating forgiving someone for something that you perceive they have done to you, could this still be an act of giving? Out of the goodness and kindness of your heart, you will forgive or excuse or pardon their acts or words. Could this then not be considered a “passing over of anything by any means”? You are giving to them a pardon. If you are truly up to the forgiving act, you will wish to offer your forgiveness to them with all of the love that you can muster up. You hope that with this act of giving, this act of releasing blame, harboring ill or hurtful thoughts or feelings, or any feelings of mistrust, will then also be released, set free. In this way, the “forgiver” is actually receiving a gift, just as is the “forgivee”. :-) Perhaps then, could we say that when one (for)gives, one receives? In other words, for giving, one also gets. And also then would it not follow that if one could truly forgive deeply and completely, all those concerned would receive even more greatly? Consider this: in order to “give” to the highest degree, one might first want to give this same gift to oneself. In other words, as you say, you are able to give more when you have more to give. So ultimately, if one can forgive oneself first, one would then have a greater capacity of love to work with when forgiving another. So we might then say, before one gives pardons, one pardons oneself. [Be]fore giving, [fore]giving, forgiving. …….. and then also for giving, we get (receive). Forgive, Forget. Before we give, we forgive, and for that we receive. That is what we receive or get. Forgetting, we receive. [For]giving is [for]getting. When we give, we get (receive). So, now if you can do this for another, can you not also do it for yourself? If another is “worthy” or deserving of your for-give-ness, then are you not also worthy of your for-give-ness? Indeed you are. You are (each) Beloved, a child of the Divine, a God-spark. Indeed you are!!
In reading today’s “word game”, the meaning becomes clear to You instantaneously – at the core of your beingness. Within your cellular structure, the toggle switches are tripped. Click, click, bing, bing. You understand. You remember. You know. However, there may be other parts of You who would choose to read this again, perhaps multiple times. If you break down these simple sentences into bite-size morsels, even your mind will at last say “Ahaaa” . We would lovingly ask that you do not worry and fret if you choose to read this only once, and discover that it sounds a bit confusing. If you so choose to read it again, of course you may do so – but we would add that this is not a test. You do not need to study it at length or labor long hours diagramming the sentences and trying to grasp the hidden meanings. Nothing is hidden. It is on display for you to drink in. Having quenched your thirst, do you continue to examine and analyze the bucket or the well? :-)
Now, Dear One, we know that before bringing this to a close, you are still desirous of a more succinct example. You ask us to put it “in a nutshell” for you this day. Very well, then.
Let us imagine two young girls, Mary and Sue, who are in high school. They are the dearest of friends, and spend as much of their waking moments together as possible. They belong to the same clubs, have the same interests and hobbies, and, in fact, live right around the corner from each other. They share everything from items of clothing to their innermost secrets. When they are not “hanging out” together, they are talking on the phone. They do indeed love each other, and they have no thoughts of anything every changing. One day, a misunderstanding arises between them, and there is much hurt and pain. Mary mistakenly believes that Sue has done something unthinkable. She has “gone out” with Mary’s boyfriend. Others contribute pieces of misinformation and lies pile upon deceit. Although there is no truth to the accusation, Sue is unable to convince her friend that it is not so. Mary, feeling hurt and betrayed by the person whom she trusted most, declares an end to the friendship. They are then both very angry, and both feel very much abandoned. It seems they have misplaced their trust. By this we mean that they feel they had not only trusted the wrong person, but also had then consequently “lost” their ability to trust --- or had misplaced it. They cannot forgive OR forget. Much time goes by, and soon the pain has lessened, they have changed their focus and moved on with their lives. However, now with remembering, they find that a deep sadness has replaced the initial anger, and yet it does not feel any better. Still no forgiving, no forgetting. One day, Mary is thinking about how their friendship used to be --- in the “good old days” – and as she reminisces, she begins to smile. She remembers the wonder-full times, the closeness, the caring and sharing, and she thinks to herself, “Sue would never, ever have betrayed my trust. How could I possibly have believed it could be so? Why didn’t I sit and talk to her and work things out? I have forever lost my dearest friend.” Mary is feeling very badly for the way that she handled things, and suddenly a thought enters her mind. It is a kind thought…….”I didn’t know any better. I did the best that I could at the time”. With that thought, Mary starts to “lighten up”. She treats herself lovingly ---- she forgives herself. As she does so, she begins to cry, and then in her mind, she also speaks to Sue. She mentally offers her old friend an apology, and she allows herself to feel forgiven by Sue. She has made peace with the perceived wrongdoing --- both her friend’s and her own. She has let it go. She has set it free. She has “given”, but first she has “fore given”, forgiven. She has also received, because she has given this kindness to herself as well. With the wound in her heart now healed, she has a greater capacity to give and to receive. Do you see that she has both given and forgiven? And now she also receives (gets). She receives the healing that Love always brings. She gets it. And now she can also forget it….because when she remembers, it will no longer bring pain. It has lost its sting. It has been forgiven, and now forgotten. It does not mean it is not remembered --- only that it no longer hurts, because it has been replaced with Love. There is one less “less than” and one more little corridor opened up and filled with Light.
Give-Forgive-Forget brings Re-membering. And so it is.
We hope that you do not consider this “nutshell” too big to crack. :-) Today’s topic is both extremely simple at its base, and yet quite complex. Your mind may try to trick you into believing that you have not grasped it. Know that you will receive exactly what you need, whether you read it once or many times.
With this, we will end for today. This lesson is “for giving”…….please begin with yourself. You are Beloved, or as some might say “You Be Loved”.
I Am JoyUs :-)
Copyright © 2017 Karen Joyce Weaver. All Rights Reserved.